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SparklyMagpie · 25/07/2019 00:34

Ever feel like that's the only thing you're put on this earth for?

Ex's crawl out the wood work, fill your head full of shit, say you meet someone on online dating, bit before long they send you a message that triggers your alarm bells...

I apologise I've had a glass of red wine whilst I do the ironing and go to bed, but thinking over the last couple of months, it's really hit me how I'm apparently never good enough for a relationship but I seem to be perfect for a quick hook up

I know my boundaries, and I know how to say no. I lost my virginity just turned my by someone who forced themself upon me and didn't take NO as an answer and resulted in a lengthy trial that ended in a "not guilty" verdict

Ex's come out randomly after you've had failed relationships, give all sorts of excuses

Do you ever just feel like that's what you're put on this planet for? That's your purpose in life, to satisfy others above your own needs because you feel so worthless?

Please tell me I'm not alone? :(

I'm a single mum to one,who just dreams of the day she can have a normal, healthy relationship and not have to think about this shit :(

I feel so close to just accepting that all only ever be considered a piece of meat

That's not a life, that's not me being a role model for my little boy and showing him how to treat men or women :'( why should I settle for something like that for myself when I wouldn't ever want another human being to feel that way about themselves or anyone else?

There ARE good men and women out there and unfortunately I've just made wrong choices

It's just hit me tonight and I know I shouldn't believe it or feel I should make do and settle

But christ it's a hard pill to swallow Sad

Tell me I'm not alone in feeling this way because as I feel right now,I'm apparently no good for anything else

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SparklyMagpie · 25/07/2019 00:45
  • just turned 16 not my. I did edit but obviously hadn't saved
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RLEOM · 25/07/2019 12:04

Stop with the self doubt and fix your thought processes.

Maybe you have had a string of crappy exes - don't we all! But that doesn't mean you're not worthy of more.

Take a lot of time self-reflecting. What can you improve on in yourself? What were the red flags that you ignored that you can ensure you recognise next time around? Be brutally honest with yourself and be more brutal when dating. Red flag? Leave, don't let feelings override those flags!

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