Relationship after baby

[snoopy18]

I’m wondering how having a baby impacted your relationship with other half.

Our baby will be 5 months and I feel like OH is forgetting his a husband too and not just a dad.

Thanks in advance

We have a 5 month old baby too and for the first 2 or 3 months it was definitely how you describe but I was guilty of the same. Now we have had a few date days, our sex life is back on track and we’re getting ‘us’ back too. I’m sure this will happen for you.

We argued a lot, as our lives had changed so much and all of a sudden our focus was on the baby, rather than each other. Plus the tiredness! He got depression after she was born but we didn’t know this until a couple of years later. I think it was the shock of change in family dynamic and you lose your “freedom” that panicked him, as he was used to going away with his friends quite a bit etc. He was and is a hands on dad who changed nappies, night feeds etc 50:50 with me, he even still cooked the dinner (I’m not the best cook and he enjoys it!) so no complaints there. BUT he did tell me once in an argument that he felt pushed out and like all I wanted was the baby and didn’t care about him.
I remember our first night out alone and we had forgotten how to talk about anything other than the baby, which was odd. We kept saying we wouldn’t talk about just her but then did and laughed at ourselves. It was almost like we were strangers. But it gets back to normal.
We have other issues (his anger and depression) that mean we are not conventionally happy (hence my name) but he had anger problems before our DD was born so it’s not because of her. Won’t hijack the thread with more details, just wanted to give more context.
I have friends who are still smitten with each other after babies and went back to normal after the foggy newborn stage, who I am v jealous of, so it can be tough at first but then adjusts! It won’t be like this forever, just make sure u get date nights and in the evening have a chat and cuddle with each other. Keep communicating and try to be nice to each other, otherwise things can get bitter between you (talking from experience!).

Mine has never recovered. Still together 8 years later and whilst kindness and the love is still there, we are more like friends than anything else.

Yes it can be tough as things have changed forever.

For the first few months we didn't have sex as I was just knackered as was he, I respected him so much more seeing how good he was with our son, he looked after me and just generally caring and loving.

I love the fact he prioritises our son, my hubby works quite alot so he dies the have loads of spare time, but what he does have we spend as a family.

In what ways is he forgetting about you ?

Our little one is 4 months old, the first couple of months I think we barely spoke to each other aside from baby stuff, but now we’re out of the fog it’s back to normal. Except we don’t go out together through the week anymore and go to bed at 10pm latest now lol. Even on a Saturday!
No more lazy lie ins either, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. It’s different but in a good way.
Communication, cuddles, intimacy and laughter is key. And a good box set!
And ensuring each other gets a break.