Think there's definitely a class, gender, financial, mental health bias on here. Unfortunately 'the underclass' don't have many opportunities to access therapy, untangle finances, find accommodation when it all goes tits up. Must be nice to be 'black and white', lots of us exist in the grey and grasp what we can. We haven't all got the opportunity to better ourselves. Lucky you if you can afford it/have the motivation and confidence to do so. Empathy is amiss in so many posts on here. Real life for the many is min wage job, renting, scaping by and stress about affording anything, and worry in case the bloody car conks out etc. High earner up North...£25,000. But then it's all relative, 1st world problems and all 🙄 Oh, and just for the record, I work, scrape by after splitting from long term toxic relationship. I've lost my dog, any chance of doing much daily as finances are tight. I've been cheated on, and cheated in the past (Karma you might say), have a long history of depression/anxiety which fucked up my career prospects. Got a degree, don't use it etc. Binge drink on occasion, sometimes upset others, but hurt myself more (poor victim me, anyone not perfect deserves no sympathy I understand 🙄) I've psychoanalysed myself to death, has it helped? No. Does guilt, regret, apologies make a difference. Yes, sometimes, but fook me that would make me manipulative! I've got masses of empathy and resilience, but I'm also a sentimental bugger. does it help? No, life's a daily struggle. Thankfully I appreciate a sunny day, a beautiful view, a bit of banter, a good meal and a great sporting event. Anyone want to date? Doubt it, too many red flags!