My brother is a mad bully and I don't want to have anything to do with him unless he seeks professional help. He married someone who already has lots and lots of children and problems. He now has a dd and another on the way. SS aren't worried although the police have been in to break up quite serious fighting. The NSPCC can't intervene at this point. It seems that bullying and mental abuse goes without saying. I shudder to think how the one-year-old is doing. My dad's behaviour has always been controlling, abusive and violent. My mum comes from a relatively 'normal' family. I have suffered a lot over my life because of the abuse. Now my bloody brother is continuing in the same vein. It's sometimes easier said than done to avoid family members, but I really don't like seeing my brother very much. If I see him, I expect I will tell him exactly how I feel, but even so, I would do better to talk to a wall because a wall won't be so stupid. I am very upset by my idiot brother's stupid behaviour and his total denial and lack of insight.
How do other people cope in this difficult situation, to stop themselves being drawn down to the same level of hell. It really is hell.
I have more-or-less come to terms with my father, but I cannot go through the whole thing again with another nutter.