He's not cheated, but has lied and deceived and gaslighted me. He's sorry and wants to put it behind us as bad choices on his part. I want to believe its behind us but I don't trust him as he lies way too easily. I constantly feel like the safety and comfort of the relationship has gone, and always always wondering what he's up to. kids involved and long history, AIBU to stay because of this, even though I feel desperate a lot of the time? I don't want to get into what's gone on, I`d just like a general consensus of what other folk would do.