Ex and current partner.

[ElizabethG]

Hi. I am with my partner of 4 years, he has a son, who I adore and adores me. However, I have been thinking of my ex, I don’t think there’s a day that goes by where I don’t think of him. I ended up bumping into him last year, we had a drink and I felt everything come back for him feeling wise. I was young when I was with my ex we was together 5 years. I left, and I regret it massively. My ex told me he still loves me and would love for us to have another go. I split up with my current partner as he was an idiot and took me and his child for granted, he completely changed and I took him back, told my ex I’m back with him, nothing happened by the way with ex. Just words. (which isn’t great still I know). However, he messaged me just asking how I was other week and we chatted and I can’t get him out my head, I feel such a child. But I have no idea what to do.
My current partner has changed in great ways since I took him back but he still have messed up getting drunk not coming home 7 in the morning, no communication to where he was, etc., telling me he’s coming home from work but then doesn’t etc., I am happy, I do love him but I can’t keep thinking about my ex and that will I regret not trying again, I don’t want to be that woman. I am not a cheater. - words what we exchanged are still very hurtful I understand that. Just need to advice. X

Doesn't sound as though the current partner is trying very hard, tbh. He's slipped back to his old ways very quickly. I think I'd tell him it's not good enough, you've given him a chance and he's blown it, so now you're going to give the Ex a chance as well. It's not as though you're married to do, and no kids either (not that you've mentioned, anyway!)

I think I just keep holding out for a massive change in him. Its just so hard with bloody bumping into my ex, it's threw everything up in the air! Nightmare. That's another thing, my current partner keeps mentioning kids, but I told him no, especially not yet, I don't want to get pregnant and him slip back, I want a stable relationship and I don't think he can give that me. Even though he says and believes he can. Thank you.