Husband made arrangements to see a prostitute

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am 2 weeks away from my 1st wedding anniversary and I just happened to track my husband during the day (he recently had some health issues so it’s left me anxious). He was at a hotel! A few days later I had the chance to look at his phone and I could see that sure enough he had been texted a hotel name etc.
I confronted him and it’s just all so weird. He admitted that yes he had arranged to see one but that he didn’t go through with it (I don’t believe him) and that he has used them in the past but not whilst with me (I don’t believe him). I was upset and I feel broken hearted to my core - this guy is my absolute best friend but I just only feel angry off and on. Most days I’m going about my business as usual.
I’m wondering if I just have such a low opinion of myself. The sex side hurts but I’m also angry that he would have effectively been using our money to pay for this.
I have no one to talk to. My family and friends would all hate him and I don’t want that. I get on really well with his mum and she would be livid but I guess there are some things mums don’t want to know about their sons.

I’ve made it really clear that if he makes any arrangements like this again it’s over but I think he will just get better at hiding it now.

Best friends don’t betray each other, and don’t break promises. He’s been cheating on you throughout your relationship. He has shown you who he is. This is your opportunity to get away before you have kids and leaving becomes so much more difficult.

I hope your ok OP
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If he’s done it before and doing it now he’ll do it again. Get out before it’s too late.

Do you have children together, OP?

People are creatures of habit, if he hasn’t done this before, he will definitely do it again.
He clearly doesn’t have a very high view of women, particularly you.
Do talk to someone in RL. You need supporting through this.
It’s disgusting enough to cheat, but to get a prostitute that’s lower than a snakes belly.

Leave now. At less than a year in, I’m guessing you don’t have children yet. Get out while you can make a clean break.

He’s cheated on you, why are you so okay about this?

Someone who exposes you to potentiqlly life threatening STDs is NOT your best friend.

Please end this sham marriage before it ruins your life.

I’d end my marriage-17 year relationship/ 2DC for this.

1st year anniversary/no DC it’s honestly a no brainier OP, you’ll have such a happy future ahead of you not constantly wondering “what if?”

Strength and

Jeez. That would be game over for me.

Have more respect for yourself. You deserve better.

He will do it again. And again.

OP, he is using joint money to stick his cock in a prostitute. I assume he then sticks his cock in you? And you don’t want people to hate him? Have you thought about your health? You have given him the green light to do it whenever he pleases.

He’s lying and he will continue to lie. If you insist on staying, practice safer sex and get tested regularly.

When you say you don’t want people to hate him, you mean you don’t want people to know the real him.

Don't keep his dirty secret. Tell everyone and get some support. His behaviour is absolutely disgusting and if he had anything about him, he would be leaving you.

I think you are lucky you've found out relatively early on in the relationship what he's like...rather than wasting decades of your life on him and having children.

I worked as an escort from the adultwork site for a good while. No guy ever got cold feet. Not. A. One.

Quite. No one would work in this field if the customer base was so flakey and unreliable!!

OP, of course he went through with it and you'd be a fool to believe/accept otherwise.

Men say it do so because they will admit to a little as possible.

Women who believe it do so because many can't imagine having sex with a stranger. Or because they believe their partner wouldn't have sex with someone else, even when all the evidence is telling them otherwise. 9f course they can, it's just sex!