Sister telling lies.

[Charlottesweb]

So, I have 4 sisters. We are all very close, or so I thought.

We were on holiday this year & loved the place so much! When we came home 2 of my sisters decided they would book & come with us next year.

I asked my younger sister if she & her dh & kids wanted to come to & she said no, as they wanted to get their house decorated etc. [There was never any question of the other sister going as her dh doesn't like holidays]

Anyway, the younger sister then complained to my mum that she hadn't been asked to go & she was very annoyed This came as a shock to me as I had asked her twice!!!!!

Then my older sister called me tonight & said that during conversation with younger sister she had said "Why don't you come with us next yr, it'll be a laugh"

Younger sis said no, she hadn't been asked. Meaning I hadn't asked her as it was me booked everything...... it's a lie I asked her twice. Big sis told her she didn't need an invite, that no-one had asked them, they just said they would go...

I feel crap, as if she has been saying things about me... even though I did ask her twice.

I don't want confrontation with her, but I also don't like her going off saying I never asked her!!!!!

Should I say something?? Or let it go?

Yes, just calmly ask why she said you didn't ask her, when you clearly did, and she declined the invitation.

I really want to, but then she will know that my older sister told me she had said she wasn't asked & that might start a row between them... we have never had arguments as adults, though plenty as kids....

I feel like asking her why she was telling lies! ffs, it was me she rang in a panic at near midnight last night when she found her dd had nits! Then she is off saying she wasn't asked to go on holidays.

If I say something to her, I am going to have to try & be calm instead of angry as I am now.

I hate liars & never in a million years would I have had her down as a liar.

Yes, just ask her why she said she wasn't asked when that's not true. Don't be all accusing and don't say it in front of anyone else. Best to confront a lie like that upfront imo before it becomes even more awkward because you've let it go too long.

What a strange thing for her to do.

I agree that it's strange, but she has sort of always been the type to want people to feel sorry for her.

She probably didn't think older sister would tell me, but she knew I had asked younger sis to go as I told her!! So she didn't say anything, just told her that she didn't need an invite! I wish older sis had said "Well, Charlotte told me she asked you & you said no".

It may be that there are other reasons why they cant go (the decorating does cost money) maybe she feels embarassed to tell she they cant afford it at all. If there are some huge hidden debts it would be easier to just say oh i havent been invited than have you all know their bussiness.

Why are you worried that if you tell her it means your older sister has told you? Surely she would know that you all talk about things like this.

I too cant stand lies and so the more open you can be the better - and dont be afraid to say that you have talked to your other sister too as that is the truth and i asume there was no nastiness in it anyway.

women!!

hurtwife, I understand about hidden costs etc but honestly, they sold a house they bought years ago for £12,000 lately, for almost £100,000! The market has gone mad where she lives!!

No, my theory is that she just wanted to gripe that day.

I have spoken to my mum today & she said sis def said she hadn't been invited & she won't go places she wasn't invited. Mum said she was on a real downer that day & everyone got a slating...

I will see her @ the weekend & I am deffo going to say something to her.