Abuse

[Iwanttochangeme]

Hi all
I'm not new, been here since 2014.
I'm going write down my situation with my husband, and I've read plenty of similar life stories as mine and it all ended with LTB. So I know mine will be LTB too.
So for past 10 years on and off I've suffered physical abuse, pushing, hitting, punching, kicking, hitting with objects (shoes, remotes, laundry baskets) name calling. smallest argument can end up violently. He can't control his anger. I do pull him up on his behaviour and he gets angry. This weekend the fight started like this. I had food poisoning vomiting since Saturday 2am till 8am. Not once he came or asked if I need anything. I asked why and the argument began. He told me I was faking and I said I didn't, he got angry slapped me. Today I went to talk again he got angry hit me with my boots several times.
I don't think I can continue writing this, it feels too much to take. On top of it I lost my mum suddenly in April for sepsis. I just don't know what to do or say

You do know op otherwise you wouldn’t be posting.
Give yourself permission to leave. He will never stop, why would he?
Get away from him.
Never look back.

I'm so pleased to hear you're going to speak to your dad. Take enough of tge important stuff with you that you don't need to go home again for a long time, if thats the way it pans out

Turn that anxiety into anger @Iwanttochangeme and find your fire to report him. Please do not stay with him, my mum is still with my dad years and years of abuse because she is too scared to leave.

Go to your dads and don't come back.

If there are things you need from the house, either take them with you or move them to work/a friend's house before you go.

Move enough money to another account for a rental deposit if you can.

You deserve a life free of fear and abuse. Once you have it you will know you did the right thing by leaving.

Have you contacted women's aid?

Iwanttochangeme Take your passport, birth certificate, valuables and anything precious to your Dads. Make a fresh start from there.

These books are useful if you are dealing with abuse. You can download them or read them online;
Lundy Bancroft - why does he do that?
tinyurl.com/LundyWhy

Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker
tinyurl.com/GiftoFear

Does he do this in work? If he has anger issues, he cannot control it so will hit police and work colleagues. Do he? Or does he chose to hit you because he knows he can get away with it.