Should I run my abusive Mother out of town?

[NotEvil]

I left my hometown 18 and made a life for myself in another city with a much better quality of life and which consequently has a very high council house waitlist.

I have a very abusive narcissistic type of Mother.

My sister was/is the golden child I am/was not he scapegoat.

Thanks he abuse was systematic and traumatic and I was deeply in FOG until
I went NC three years ago.

About 10 years ago my Mother managed to get a council house swap by claiming she needed to be near me(!)

This was completely untrue and if I have seen her, it was only for her to bully and abuse me.

In fact it was because my sister had kicked her out after promising he she could live with her family and my Mother likes the city where I live.

I dread bumping into her to the extent it makes me fearful to go out.

I have severe CPTSD and am in antiDs.

It’s just occurred to me that my Mother owns her own property outright which she inherited from my Dad.

It’s in the original town and she’s currently letting my sister live in it rent free as sister’s marriage broke up.

If I report this to the council, she may be evicted from her council house.

She would also be out of my life forever.

Is this morally bankrupt?

I’ve tried to be concise but could fill 1000 +Stately Home threads with 1000 posts and still not be done...

I don’t think you’d be wrong, she’s been allocated a much sought after council house under false pretences. She has adequate housing and assets, also if she’s claiming benefits that is fraud. Report away.

I wouldn't have a conscience about it

I think you have good reason to do exactly that.

What she is doing is morally and ethically wrong.

I’d report her immediately.

Report her.

Oh god, thanks for your responses.

I thought I’d have to brace myself for a hammering.

I know the morals/ethics of her taking a flat another needs is enough but for some reason I feel bad, despite it all, as original town is awful, my city is lovely.

But, my god it would make my life better.

I have the worst fear that sister, who is the incarnation of my Mother but to the power of 1000, may use mother connection to move here too, then my life would be over.

Apologies also for the terrible s&g, typing on phone.

I would without a doubt

I absolutely and one million % would. She's obtained a council property under false pretences, she sound morally abhorrent and a vile woman. For the council house alone, that would be it for me.

Without a doubt I would speak to the council she is taking a property that a deserving family needs get on the phone asap.....she deserves this

Do it. She’s taking a house from someone in need.

So you think getting revenge will make all your issues disappear? Grow up

Thanks all for your responses, I’m grateful and needed to hear them.

I’ve just pressed send on the online form and they have my email address if they chose to investigate.

It’s done now, what will be will be I guess.

Another thing, you have to jump through hoops to get a Council House, provide lots if evidence. If the Council have given your mum a property then thats because she met the criteria. Despite your ongoing personal issues, this will not resolve anything.

Is it possible she has signed the house away to your sister? So she is no longer the owner and therefore has had house and/or benefits correctly due to your sister doing something underhand and mean (taking ownership of the house and then kicking her out)?

I only ask as I am aware of a situation where this happened (more detailed but boiled down to basics)

The criteria evidence always really puzzled me as, at the time the local link was essential to meet the criteria.

Yet no one contacted me, I put that as the second reason in my report.

It is possible about the signing over thing, I’ve been NC for three years.

My sister is entirely capable of trying to manufacture that, but my Mother is v canny and knows that that’s her one way to control my sister as sister wil only be thinking of the inheritance/property value.

Mother is also getting a v substantial pension from my Dad but I don’t think that means anything re Council House claim.

I want nothing from her apart from never having to see her again.

I’d do the same in a heartbeat
I too was the scapegoat my brothers the golden children
I moved 136 miles away just to get away from the toxic puddle they call family
I also had to wait 18 months for a council house cos of people like her
As soon as I could we bought our own property and one of the reasons was so a family who really needed it could have one (not the only reason!we where paying silly money in rent)
I’d dob her in
Good luck

Yeah fuck it. I’d do it!

Also what is FOG? Sorry if this is a stupid question. For the life of me, I can't work it out

Very much not a stupid question, it’s

Fear
Obligation
Guilt

outofthefog.website/toolbox-1/2015/11/17/fog-fear-obligation-guilt

@NotEvil cheers. Seen it a few times and couldn't decipher it. Makes much more sense now. Thank you kindly