Hi all. Sorry for the long post ... there has been little intimacy in my relationship for a four years due to my partner’s erectile problems. I have tried talking to him about it to no response, tried suggesting new things to try or asking what might help him/what he might be in to - no response, I get physically rejected, pushed away when I try to kiss him properly etc etc. I eventually got him to go to the doctor, and after all tests the doctor said nothing is physically wrong. He eventually bought viagra but has never used it, I think he just got it because I was upset and wanted to shut me up! Eventually I gave up. He says nothing and just goes to sleep when I’m upset and crying myself to sleep, and never mentions it in the morning.
Anyways, I noticed the last few mornings that he has been hard again when he woke up. He has never mentioned it so I asked him last night, and he said that it’s been back to that for quite a while. I got really upset - He has always said the lack of intimacy wasn’t because he wasn’t attracted to me so why hasn’t he been interested in coming near me now that he has no problem getting hard again? He said nothing, didn’t even hug me as I cried myself to sleep again, and hasn’t mentioned it today. I have tried talking to my partner a lot but I’m always left feeling like I’m overreacting. I feel like on the whole I have been patient as it’s been four years. I’m only in my 30s. Has anyone else been in the same boat? Any tips to deal with it? Thanks