control

[mario35]

hey, im new here, just wanting some guidance with afew issues. i have 3 beautiful children nearly 19 the oldest and 11 the youngest. been bringing them up by my self. ive in the last year met a lovely man...but its going wrong.. last 6 months i am not able to do stuff right, i dont listen to him, i drink too much, i talk about my past too much, i shold pay attention too his needs more...but im beautiful, he loves me, wants a future with me if things work out...my pace of life is very fast for him but willingly he is around us..so im alittle confused now he wants space...dont get me wrong im not a women who doesnt know her mind..but getting increasingly confused if this is control or im unreasonable.. thank you for hearing xx

At this stage, when it's a new relationship, you should be feeling like you're walking on air all the time. Not feeling you need to justify yourself against accusations of whatever.

He doesn't get to tell you how to live your life. But yes, you're right, he's trying to.

It’s control. He’s trying to make you doubt yourself. If you were all the things he says you are, why is he with you? You need to get rid. Why settle after being single for such a long time? You’ve managed to raise 3 kids single handily so why are you sticking with him? What does he offer to your life? How does he improve it?

don't move in with him. it will get worse.