Actually dreading him coming home

[Whitebeltatlife]

Had many problems with ‘d’p but it’s just hit a whole new low. He’s been going through some stuff recently, in turn we all have, mainly down to drinking, his way of dealing with it? You guessed it. More drinking.

He left this morning to run some errands with a “I’ll be back in a little while” (7am) he’s still out, I’ve not chased because I don’t really care. I’ve been on my own with baby and 3 kids. Just had a text to say he will be home soon and I am literally dreading it. He will come home, be horrible to me, to kids, start trying to tell them what to do despite the fact he’s had no involvement all day and it will all just end in tears. I don’t know why I can’t find the strength to tell him to leave.

C'mon OP do this for your kids, you CAN do it even if it's really hard. Your kids (and you) deserve better, time to put them before your relationship, you will look back on this in a few years and be angry you did not do it sooner. C'mon you got this OP

Pack his bags. You deserve better. You know it x

He’s just done the hard bit for you. You were miserable with him and admit it’s bad for the kids. Don’t let him back
You’ve got this!

Do this for your kids op. My mum stayed with my dad because she loved him, but it destroyed us kids.

Please don't cave and let him back. Do you have a daughter? Would you be happy is this was her partner treating her and your grandkids this way?

Do it for the children if nothing else. You're their protector. Do you job. They do not deserve this treatment. And neither do you.

Talk here as long as you need. Maybe tell a friend or family member? Saying these things out loud to someone could put it into perspective for you.

This is your only chance at life OP. Don't let some arsehole ruin it.

Where does he go when he leaves you?
I'm pretty sadly sure I'm not the only person thinking affair. It's the "hating you for being you" thing,
It must be very hard to think of taking on a new challenge with 4 kids, but everyone who has commented so far thinks you life will be easier and better without him. I'm sure you will get more of that today too. That's because it's true.
But for him you and the kids are just an option, (I bet he thinks drinking is an option too, but I very much doubt it is) He thinks he has choices ..so doesn't see how low he has sunk. Don't let this go on, for both your sakes he needs consequences.

Get rid of him OP. Now is your chance! I know it’s hard but you and the children will be much happier in the long run. He doesn’t want to be there anyway so make it easy for him.

Get some suitcases/bin liners and pack his stuff. Get the locks changed ASAP. Sort your finances and take as much as you are entitled to.

This horrible cycle of him coming and going can stop now but you have to be really strong. You CAN do it.

Think about how lovely the atmosphere in the house will be with him gone.