I'm a regular here but have name changed as some details could be outing.
Last year my mum found out my dad had been cheating on her for a long time. I won't go into detail but they basically split up and were sorting through assets. It was a nasty split. I took my mum's side as my dad refused to admit he was in the wrong.
Anyway for about 6 months I sat and listened to her rant and rave and cry about him. What a dick he has always been and how he never treater her right. I listened and listened and sympathised. Tbh it got very hard to deal with after a while. It was tough listening to the rants. It took a lot out of me and I offloaded a lot onto my Dh and my brother.
I never once made her feel like I didn't care how she felt or let her know I was tired of hearing it all, I just listened.
Today.. It's a long story but they are back together and things have been smoothed over. I phoned her to talk to her about something. I have issues with my in laws (I won't get into the details) on going for a few years. Every once in a while problems rear their ugly head again. So I phone her today and started telling her I was annoyed over something and I got shut down. She immediately sighed loudly and said "Just forget about them" as if I can forget my husband's family. When I said that she wouldn't put up with it if she were me she just said I'm not in the mood for this.
I'm a bit pissed off about it tbh. Everytime she does something like this I just want to distance myself from her.
Was I wrong to talk to her about it?
It's kind of dawned on me lately that she never actually gives me advice as such, just a general let it go, get on with it...
I always feel I'm a huge disappointment to her. I'm not the type of daughter she wanted. We're quite different personality wise. I'd say she has a better relationship with my sister in law than she does with me.
I'm not going to talk to her about what's happened but I'm sad because I feel like I just need to distance myself from her now.