Boyfriend changed ex's name on phone.

[Elles1980]

They have very little contact anyways, live hundreds of miles apart but he's been acting well weird with his phone recently, snapping it wherever he goes and when I come near outs blank screen so obvi when he went toilet (he went to double back for it, saw me look and carried on) I had a snoop. Should I say something I don't know what to do it's just weird??? I saw previous messages hence how I know xx

What did he change the name to?

From what to what?

If he changed it from a pet name he used when they were together to her actual name then I would see that as a good thing!

Sorry was a very rushed message. From Sarie to Scotty

There doesn't seem to be an innocent explanation for something like that

What was the message content like?

So from her name to a more male name to disguise the fact he is in contact with her? Is that what you think?

He messaged her on the 1st anniversary of her father's passing. He said something like I'm so sorry for everything and she said nothing to apologise for, then just chit chat how's the family, and 2 cats they both shared, she now has them so he's asking how the boys are. Nothing weird at all. Although I'm very aware messages are easy to delete. I think I find it more weird as he deleted his social media so as not to hurt her feelings if she found out about us , I know the bloody answer myself .

I would have deleted her number!
How could he call you out on it?

Well yeah he changed it from her name to a male name?! I just wonder why you would do that when I was chill with them having contact anyways??? I honestly thought I'd see something else but after I saw that k stopped looking

The fact IV felt compelled enough to check his phone shows it all.

If he changed it to a male name that would raise suspicions for me.

He didn't like you being ok with it.

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That is suspicious I'd have been tempted to change her number to one of my own..

Why wouldn't he like me being ok with it? And also he wouldn't have known I was going to snoop on his phone. I think it must be incase her name popped up so I didn't ask maybe??

@Macca84 that is genius, sadly I am not a genius lol

Imo some people keep in touch with exes for an ego boost.
The fact he is blaming you for this would rouse suspicions.
And many years ago when I was having an affair I had him as a female name in my phone.....

He deleted his whole social media? To keep you secret? To not hurt his EX girlfriend? That's extreme!

Its lucky you betrayed his privacy then OP lucky escape

When we first got together in December he said rather than take the chance of friends tagging us in stuff he just deleted it. Now he says it because he doesn't like social media and (he moved from his home town for a fresh start 2 years ago) he has nothing in common with all those people anymore and they bring back bad memories. But every now and then he has a look and has said when I asked before if he checks up on his ex that he went on her profile so I don't know what to think?! I know the answer but I'm super sad about it!

Can Scotty be a nickname based on her surname - is she Scottish while your ex is another nationality?

He's one thousand percent up to something I'm sorry to say

What has the OP's ex got to do with this?

The ex has nothing to do with it, well I don't think so?? IV never met her and no there from the same place no different nationalities

Referring to pikapikachu's comment

Ah ok, well just to clarify there is no reason for her name to all of a sudden be a boy's name lol. I don't even think the lady knows about I exist.