Is he not over his ex?

[thefinalcount]

I've been casually seeing someone for a little while now.
He never talks about anything (if he "likes" me,if it's going anywhere)
I have zero clue.
He split with his ex about a month before we met.
They were together 2 years they split for two and were together 5 years before that and lived together.
He has mentioned her a few times to me,telling me how they got back together and about how she hated the house he rented for them to live in.
He told me about why they broke up the first time.
I was sat with his friends and one said to him "just watched ex Snapchat story"
He immediately said I don't want to know.
He's blocked her on everything.
He texts me every single day,we have fun together but it's like he's not over his ex and doesn't want to let me know if this is headed anywhere.
Do I let him decide without pressure ?
I've asked him recently and he got all moody saying I was coming on too strong and to relax a bit.

He's probably not. I would either accept that and not mention it again, or push it and risk it ending.

I'd date others. He doesn't seem all that interested.

Life’s too short. At the beginning of a relationship you should be really looking forward to seeing each other and having lots of fun. Chatting for ages, finding out about each other, making each other laugh........

Dump.

He just seems very closed off emotionally.
He's great till you ask him if he wants to continue to see each other like this or see each other more.
He gets ratty with me and makes me feel like I'm a bar person by asking.
Obviously I only ask so we are both on the same pshe.

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“He gets ratty with me and makes me feel like I'm a bar person by asking.”

Dump.

You're not on the same page and are beginning to make excuses for him.

Dump

Do you think he's wanting something without a label ?
Is it wrong to ask questions ?

One more

He gets ratty with me and makes me feel like I'm a bar person by *asking.”

Dump.

Every day I'm waking up with a knot in my stomach.
I hate questioning things

Agree you should move on. You clearly want different things.

“Every day I'm waking up with a knot in my stomach.
I hate questioning things”
Dump.

Every day I'm waking up with a knot in my stomach.

No relationship should have you feeling like this, but especially not a new one. This should be the honeymoon phase, your gut is telling you something is wrong.

That is your gut instinct working for you.

You are completely focussed on his feelings and allowing him to get moody when you are being reasonable. Why are you settling for this? Do you think he is the best you can get or have you invested in him too soon?

Agree with the others. It doesnt matter if you have a nice time together or how often he texts. Those are the easy things - I'll text you everyday if you give me your number - but I won't want to talk about a future with you either.

Point is that a relationship shouldn't have you feeling like yours does. And NEVER at the beginning.

Last relationship I had I ended after 6 lovely months because he did two things that showed me I wasn't his priority. The first, I let go but remembered. The second, i dumped him for.

I would not be putting up with this.

DUMP!

I think if you have to question where you stand with someone and you're getting the kind of reaction that you are he really isn't worth your time and energy, you deserve so much better x

How long is 'a little while'? Casually dating for a month, ie 4 dates or so, then you're jumping ahead too quickly. Casually dating for 3 months, staying over regularly and being intigrated into friendship groups, then you're right to want to know where it's heading. In the second scenario he's just not that into you unfortunately, whether he's over ex or not.

Probably 5 or 6 dates over 2 1/2 months
He said to me last time I seen him he doesn't say he wants to be with someone till he knows he wants to be with someone
Maybe that was a hint

I've only slept with him 3 times

But we chat daily
And he always initiates convo most of the time

Tbh, I'd have to he seeing someone for 6 or 7 months before I call them my boyfriend. I like to be sure too!

To me, that is less of an issue than the fact he clearly still has an emotional attachment to his ex.

I wouldn't be happy about that. I like people to sort their own stall out before they start messing about with mine!

It's a total minefield isn't it.

Your gut instinct is telling you something is off. Listen to it. For whatever reason you’re waking up with a knot in your stomach. That’s a bad sign.

In all likelihood he is probably not over his ex and is emotionally unavailable.

If you want to carry on seeing him, please don’t invest until he steps up and I think it would be a good idea date others, it will take the pressure off. You don’t have to sleep with others, but certainly don’t take yourself off the market. And you may meet someone you like even more and who is more clear about how he feels about you. This guy is being cagey for a reason.

Have you or your friends ever dated someone soon after a painful breakup and had sex in order to try and 'move on'? Because it sounds like this is what he is doing. That isn't fair to you.

I had someone want to do this with me recently after the end of an LTR - and I politely declined since I'd rather not be someone's 'healing shag'.