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AIBU to be annoyed about this??

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Beebop20 · 19/07/2019 23:06

I’ve just been out with one of my old friends, his boyfriend and my boyfriend. My boyfriend hasn’t really got on well with my friends bf the first time he met him..he’s quite serious and seems quite self important. However, it meant a lot to me for my bf to try with them and make the second time more successful. This time it was much easier, the conversation was flowing and after the meal they’d calmed down with each other and saw eye to eye. They asked if we wanted to go for drinks after, which I would have been down for. My boyfriend proceeded to say we were saving for a holiday, which is true, however I was so happy they were getting on that I wanted the night to keep going. I said I’d pay for his drink, thinking it would be nice. So, this is when it gets a bit awkward. He wrote me a message on his phone saying he needed the loo, to which I pointed to where it was. He shook his head, but never said he felt ill or wanted to leave. If he had said he was feeling ill, I would have made an excuse and said we had to go. We get outside and they ask if we want to go for one. He immediately jumped in and said he needed at sh*t and don’t want to “destroy the bathroom”, immediately running off and barely giving me the chance to say bye. I was mortified, he had only met them once and they thought it was an excuse for him to leave as he kept saying we were skint. Turns out he did feel ill, but how was I to know this when he never actually told me? I just found it disrespectful and it came off as an excuse, as he never said anything before. Am I right to feel a bit annoyed about this or is he on the right for being honest?

OP posts:
Beebop20 · 19/07/2019 23:07

*her boyfriend and my boyfriend I mean.

OP posts:
Lollypop701 · 19/07/2019 23:12

What was he supposed to do? He was ill and tried the excuses, didn’t work so ran home to be I’ll. ffs you’re his girlfriend, he’s ill!?? And you are really asking a question?

overnightangel · 19/07/2019 23:14

I’d find it hard to get worked up about to be honest 🤷🏼‍♀️

Lollypop701 · 19/07/2019 23:15

Sorry I’m being harsh, but you’re so busy acknowledging the other couple you’re completely ignoring your ohe

username68482 · 19/07/2019 23:45

Sorry OP I agree with others. Your OH probably didn't want to tell you/ others he was desperate for the toilet/ill. He did it in desperation in the end. He was hinting but you were too busy wanting to impress the other couple.

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