His Infidelity.... and how he's suspicious of me... laughable

[BlackTulip71]

So the husband who I'm trying to divorce, who had an affair of years of inappropriate contact with women is refusing to accept I want a divorce, is now implying that I'm secretive, that I'm hiding things on my phone. When the truth is I have nothing to hide, I have no interest in meeting someone new, I just want out !

Is it him trying to make himself feel better, by trying to blame me for the split ?

Yes. Classic reversal.

DARVO. Typical behaviour, it's easier to blame you.

And because I am going ahead with filing for divorce, I get messages like this :

You’re making a fundamental mistake bringing our marriage to an end. I wish you would look at everything we have built in the 16+ years we have been together including our beautiful girls

You're doing the right thing, he is just realising he is losing the most important person in his life. Serves him right.

He is just trying to put the blame on you. Classic reversal. This takes some of the blame off him. I would just ignore him.

That’s projection. Expecting you to behave like he does.

Perhaps he should have considered everything you built together and your two beautiful girls before sticking his cock in someone else.....arsehole.

Dont even rise to it, grey rock.

Oh yes! The chickens had come home to roost! What an absolute fuckwit! Trying to push any blame he can onto you. What about his fundamental mistake by shagging another woman! Arse!

What a cock. Blaming you!! Ignore you'll be wasting your breath and keep of pushing the divorce.

I’ve had an emotional day. Your words are just what I needed. Thank you x

Ignore him. He's struggling to believe that you have plucked up the courage to divorce him.

He's losing control and the thought of you being independent from him is something he doesn't like.