Problem with sex and DH

[Penguin123Zx]

Since menopause I find sex painful. I am using vagifem but still not great. I do oral for him but TBH Im over it. There is zero pleasure for me. Im not sure what to do. I don't want to continue like this but I also cant expect him to be in a sexless marriage. What should I do?

No advice but hoping to bump you up

Visit your GP and talk it through.

I’m now post menopause and our sex life is the best it’s ever been. It can be done.

Hope you refind your mojo

What will the GP suggest? What are the recommendations for this?

Why is he not trying to pleasure you in other ways, as you do him, while you wait for solutions?

I was prescribed ovestin and that has really helped.

Agree that post menopausal sex just gets better - my DW and I have been pleasantly surprised at this discovery.

Why are you "over it" - did you not enjoy it in the past and wouldn't you like to do so again? you seem to have decided that there is nothing you can do and you just have to accept the situation - I suggest you need to change that approach. He needs to be involved too - it's not just a matter of getting his rocks off, he should take pleasure in pleasing you in whatever way you want and needs in this respect change over time.

Don't give up, sex has to be nurtured like all other aspects of a relationship.

Thank you all for your advice. I will go back to the doctors and see what else can be done.

I would suggest you give systemic HRT a try along with the Vagifem, some women need both to get VA under control and you may find being more comfy helps with your sex drive.