What are the traits of dyspraxia in adults?

[fedup21]

I was just reading the other thread about chronically disorganised partners and quite a few people have mentioned dyspraxia. I have started to suspect my DH has dyspraxia but would be interested in hearing from others about it.

DH is very forgetful, sets timers for everything or he forgets.
Poor time management.
Listens to me but appears not to hear what I say...
Untidy
Can only focus on one thing at a time, eg once he’s eaten his dinner, he will walk out of the dining room (empty handed-wouldn’t think to pick up his glass or plate) to get a yoghurt, then walk back again to get the spoon. Then it’ll take a couple of trips to take all the things back to the kitchen afterwards.
Clumsy and heavy handed
Extremely poor at remembering names of people/streets/places.
Very slow reader (though v bright and good grasp of most things has a Masters etc)
Very poor practically-DIY etc

Or is he just a bit useless?!

He sounds like me, i suspect i nnatentive adhd* undiagnosed though z

My adult son has dyspraxia and dyslexia this was diagnosed when he was 5 privately.
He’s now 25. I think think he on the spectrum in someways but he is high functioning

Some of the things I can say about him
He took his driving test 4 times before he passed
He has gone through numerous clutches in 2 cars due to crap co ordination
Although since i made him pay for the last one he hasn’t done it since but he is getting an automatic next time

We moved the George Foreman grill in the kitchen only slightly to a different angle as soon as we did this he kept forgetting to switch it off
We moved it back no problem with him
not switching it off ( but we got switch timer just in case )

He will leave all the lights on in his bedroom no matter what time of day it is

He is loud and clumsy no matter how many times I tell him when he comes in at 3am after work he is noisy clumping up the stairs and saying Night Mum in a voice loud enough to wake up the dead

He hated brushing his teeth and as a smoker they were in a bad way
I got him an electric toothbrush and because there is no effort in brushing his teeth he uses it religiously and has his teeth whitened and goes to the dentist regularly

his bosses think a a hell of lot of him because they if ask him to do something it’s done
He works in security so if his boss texts him at 5am and. Says can you do XX at 6am even if he got in at 3am he is on it and very reliable

As a child he could not master roller skating ice skating cricket or anything similar but was riding ride a bike at 5 played rugby to a high level at school and is an excellent swimmer and could swim in the big pool from around 3 years old

While he is no good at DIY if my husband asks him to help him he is brilliant at looking at the plans and telling him where everything goes but he could not put it together himself it would all be back to front 😟

Immaculately dressed could easily be a male model always has his hair cut every week wears expensive aftershave ( I’m talking Creed at £200 a bottle ) and has a huge amount of expensive clothes and shoes
He will spend £500 on a coat and a couple of hundred on a pair of shoes or trainers
But I will see it all on his bedroom floor in a heap
his bedroom looks like a bomb has gone off in it

I’m an adult with dyspraxia.

My handwriting is very bad, illegible to everyone except me. I’m rubbish at anything requiring manual dexterity e.g. sewing and craft activities. I always have bruises from where I’ve bumped into doors and furniture. It took me several attempts to pass my driving test and I have had lots of minor bumps e.g. driving into posts, kerbs etc.

My daughter is dyspraxic.
She has adapted really well but still cannot picture dir toons in her head.If you tell her a route she’s been lots of times she can’t follow it mentally.
She still has a Sharpie dot on her left hand. It’s how she tells left from right.
She cannot play team sports well. Her gross motor skills are hilarious to watch. Her fine motor skills are good enough to perform surgery.
She’s learned to be organised to the point where she developed OCD as a means of dealing with the stress of chaos. She struggles with unexpected changes and has to ‘plan to be spontaneous’.

She falls over her own two feet a lot.
She rarely goes out to a restaurant without pouring at leat one drink over someone. That’s got much better and is oddly is worse when she’s not drinking alcohol.
Problem solving on things that require spatial awareness is a challenge. She can’t travel on just hand luggage as her packing skills are non existent. Her siblings can travel rather world with a small rucksack whilst she needs the biggest suitcase imaginable for a weekend.
She thinks maps are pretty. She understands the theory. Application of the theory is impossible.
Their home has no flatpack furniture. It would be too painful.

Reading with interest as my DP is careless and impractical, can't drive and has no sense of direction, lots more besides. We've considered some form of ADD in the past, as he is also very distractible, but it doesn't quite fit as he's capable of great attention to detail in some situations. Definitely not on the autistic spectrum. I hadn't considered dyspraxia but will go and do some googling now. He is certainly quite frustrating to live with!

Our daughter drives well with satnav but has to have a big L on her dashboard to tell her which way to turn.

Her gross motor skills are hilarious to watch. Her fine motor skills are good enough to perform surgery.

Now, that’s interesting as DH is exactly the same!

My son has dyspraxia. He can not tie shoelaces or run. He has hard enough time walking without tripping up or falling over ! He’s also a very messy eater .
He has poor core muscle tone and tires easily. He struggles to ride bikes and do anything gross motor coordination. Yet he can touch type faster than anyone I know !