splitting up

[Mmmmdanone]

I can't handle living with my husband any longer and want to separate. I have in the past tried to tell him this but it gets so muddled- he asks for reasons and then dismisses or minimises them all. I end up in tears and he thinks it's all sorted. It's crazy- it's like he only hears what he wants to. I just can't get him to see it's over.

Do I just say I don't love you, no particular reason?

Then, I don't even know how it will go after that as he has nowhere to go but don't think we would be able to share the house for any amount of time. We have 2 kids. Honestly, if I had the money I would rent/ buy somewhere else and just move out with kids to avoid this.

How have people managed separation?

Sorry just realised there's a divorce/separation topic. Should have put this there.

I would be tempted to leave myself but I know you aren't supposed to if you want to keep hold of the house for you and the kids...

Hmm...pack a bag for him and go 'I've phoned your mum to tell her you will be staying with her for a few nights while you sort somewhere else to stay'. Not sure if that is fair though considering it is you that wants to leave him.

Could you save up for a bit and move out when it is possible?

Tough one.

I am saving currently. It's probably the best way. Hate to think of moving the kids from their home though but better than the thought of being this unhappy.

this unhappy for a long time that should say.