Suspicious of DH, what do I do

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DH has a job where he goes out in the morning for about 2 hours then comes home for lunch and then goes to the office in the afternoon. He is ALWAYS home for lunch.

Today he went to the gym this morning, then came home, had breakfast and said he doesn’t have to leave until later but will be home for lunch. In the meantime when he was at the gym his work phone came with a reminder: day’s leave. He is not supposed to be off today! But I ignored it as sometimes someone else’s leave comes up on his reminders but there was no name today. Now he’s texted me saying he’s got a lot of work to do and he’s not coming for lunch. This is very very unusual and now the day’s leave looks suspicious.

What do I do to check? What options to I have. I’m a SAHM and have 1 child. I’m shaking as I always suspected certain things, but not an affair. But he’s always ogling women.

Phone the office? Pretend to be someone else to speak to reception then hang up before they connect you? Iff he's not there, they'll say.

Could you video call him?

Thank you, I’ll try both..

Stay calm and remember it might not be anything to worry about. If it is - you will get through it... grit your teeth.

I’d go for phoning the office, he’s likely to ignore a call and text you to say he’s in a meeting or something

Heard anything back? x

I hope it's a complete coincidence and is someone else's leave x

I’d ring the office and ask to speak to him.

Call office, if they confirm he's on holiday then you'll have to think about what's your next move.

Do you have any shared computers, iPads etc?

What happened, OP?

Thanks everyone for taking the time to reply x

I video called him on whatsup, he didn’t answer, not heard from him for about 45 mins. Then he texted asking me about dc, then I told him they want to see their daddy and he answered the video call and he was in the office. Phew! Must have been someone else’s leave.

It’s just that his behaviour was very strange this morning, he never goes to the gym before work and then not coming for lunch plus the leave reminder. All together seemed very suspicious. Plus he said he didn’t have a busy day at first, then he said he’s very busy.

I would assume he took the morning off and try to find out why, whether that meant checking his phone etc

Can you access find my phone and check his timeline?

Have you considered that the fact he didn't answer your first video call request actually alerted him that you wanted to "see" him - so he hotfooted it to the office from wherever he was and called you so you could see he was there.

Sounds suspicious to me.

Yes I was just going to say what fawn said.

@FawnDrench hmmm..not sure. He is the kind of guy who’d never go to the office unless he really has to, let alone on his day off. He sometimes works from home in the afternoon if he can help it.

I’ll check a few more things over the next few days. I’ll keep my eyes and ears open.

It does sound a bit suspicious but there could always be another explanation for it. DH once took an afternoon off to go shopping for my birthday. I think I would have thought the worst too if I had found out he had booked it and not mentioned anything. Especially since he arrived home at his usual time to cover his tracks! He told me on my birthday he had made a special trip and took half a day annual leave.

@OhBcereus that is something that he would do, but my birthday passed a while ago and dc’s b-day is quite a few months away. So that’s out of the question.

You clearly don't trust him, why not just ask? Is this first time you have thought this? You say you have always "suspected certain things"...