Have I been semi ghosted?

[Sparklingwaterisgood]

This is a weird one but a friend has literally stopped personal
Contact with me but is continuing contact through group chat on messenger . There has been no falling out .
For context my friend and I work together now and again, get on famously and he confides in me. I am
Happily married and he is in a relationship of six months . He has been somewhat dependant Int he past, over texting, crossing boundaries etc but it has all been resolved gently with no problems in the past . I don’t think his girlfriend has given him an ultimatum or anything like that as it is a new relationship and he is always frustrated by his friends who drop friends and hobbies when they meet partners . I am one of very
Many female friends he has. There are no feelings there . I am hurt though.
I did text some weeks ago but he did not reply personally but has ramped up contact in the group chat which is also out of character . I have no idea what’s happened ?

Sadly, it is what it is. This is blokes for you. I had a best mate. Last time I saw/spoke to him was his wedding! After that he never returned a text or message. His wife to be clocked me and although she’s very attractive, I knew the moment she looked at me that I was in trouble. We were so close. We lived together at Uni so if anything was going to happen we had loads of years before she came on the scene! What can you do though? No way to win in this situation. Just bide your time and try to keep channels of communication open.

It's a new relationship so probably too busy together as a new couple to have much time with friends. If he's revolting ro you I the group chat then it's fine isn't it? You say he has a lot of mum friends so probably is too busy with his new girlfriend to reply individually to everyone. I'm sure it'll settle down once they've been together for longer.

Thanks so very much for your replies . Yes it is what it is . He has loads of time on his hands so I know that these are not hos reasons .I feel like a twat for not seeing what was right in front of my eyes! . Hurts but it is a lesson that many of us could all learn from.

I have read about triangulation this afternoon and have several light bulb moments . It really is a cruel and cowardly act or series of acts. I’m so grateful to you for helping me to open my eyes . I feel empowered though and ready to face the inevitable attempts at hoovering . Yes, I’ll knock his block off !

It's actually such a useful thing to know about, I wish I'd known about it years ago.

Hopefully he well leave you be, but if not at least you know what he is up too if he resurfaces for a hoover. Think I'd just block and delete him, sod putting any more energy his way n feeding him.

Was just thinking, I bet when they split he tells everyone it was because of her 'issues' and all this talk about them now is just setting it all up for when the time comes.

That’s a good call. Each time his relationships ends , the girls are always psychos he says. They bolt early . He craves status and wealth , this girl
Has neither( in his words ) so I do wonder if your premonition will come true .

Yup, anyone who calls him out on his bull or ditches him, obviously they are a psycho xD

Good luck to her, she'll need it lol.