Mixed signals from woman, don't know what she wants!

[ApolloSunday]

About a month ago I slept with a female friend of mine. The chemistry's been building up over a few months and it didn't happen when we were drunk. We've had sex three times and the third time we were extremely cuddly, told each other how much we cared about each other, got excited about going on a camp trip under the stars etc etc.

I went away for a week (during which we talked 1-2 times a day and sent some flirty texts) and came back excited o see her. I called her and she was very distant and preoccupied. I texted her later to see if things were OK and she said she thinks we should go back to being friends because she didn't want to complicate things. Literally the next day she sends my a text: "I can't get you out of my head, you're like a drug." and then sends a couple of really raunchy text messages.

I'm totally at a loss. I've been divorced for 18 months, nothing serious since then. I really have feelings for this woman but I just don't know how to read these mixed signals.

Lay your cards on the table and ask her. She maybe confused and not want to ruin the friendship which generally would happen if it didnt work but at the end of the day you're not going to know unless you ask directly. You'll know either way then!

I know it is different for the sexes but if a man was treating me like this, I would calmly say:

I like you a lot but, I not looking for anything casual, so if that's your thing , best just to stay friends.

Sounds like she's just using you for a quick thrill.
That's not going to work out long term for you, so I would protect your feelings for now, to avoid heartache later.

You need to decide what you want. Tell her and if she doesnr want the same, stop the relationship and go back to being friends.

If she says she wants a relationship and keeps doing this, end it.

She might be confused. Or she might have realised the relationship doesnt have legs. But likes the ego boost of flirting and you wanting her

Sounds very much like she's confused, but she isn't really being fair.

Just back off a little bit. See what happens. I suspect this will just turn into a cycle, so I think you need to protect your feelings a bit here.

It's possible that she really enjoyed the sex with you but is not sure about a relationship with you.

The only way to find out is to have an honest conversation and ask her.

Sounds like a game-playing headfuck merchant.