Hi all. I moved in with my partner about 10 months ago and im having trouble with his hoarding. We live in a huge 4 bedroom 3 bathroom house but every available space is taken up with his stuff. He was single for about 9 years so I understand that this is his kingdom and he has made it the way he wants it to be but he just wont let me in. I bought with me very little, gave most of my possessions up to be with him (very stupid of me in hindsight) I love him dearly but im so tired of living with all this crap. We have 4 bedrooms, his grown up son who no longer lives here has a big room with a bed and all his drum kits etc and its a big mess . I can shut the door on that but there are 2 of us here and all the other rooms are just packed with old hi fi 's, bikes, tool kits, golf clubs ( we dont play golf) and all kinds of stuff that is never used. He just wont throw anything away and any mention of it sparks real anger in him. Amazingly he knows just where everything is and if i do try and throw anytjing away he always catches me out !! He has hundreds of t shirts that no longer fit him and never will again wrapped up neatly in bales of cling film taking up whole built in wardrobes some of them never even taken out of the wrapping they came in. We have a double garage also filled with crap but he wont put tools or golf clubs etc in there because he says they will go rusty. He wont put things in the loft for the same reason. These things are never used and I just cant see his reason (and I cant reason with him). The garage is lovely and dry by the way and attatched to the house. I have a grandson of 5 who comes to stay every couple of weeks and I have to make a space amingst the clutter to put a put me up bed down for him. We have a big enough house that he could have a room of his own if only he would get rid of some of this useless stuff. Im at a loss at what to do. He is a lovely man and I love him a lot but this could actually be our undoing. I suppose in our honeymoon period i didnt see what was actually before my eyes. I spend my whole life now trying to declutter but all I am doing is moving clutter from one place to another and trying make a home for us that im not ashamed of . Any help would be greatfully recieved xx