I'm very overweight. I lost 3 stone last year but put some of it back on over the winter. I've been trying to lose the rest because it's affecting my health. DH is overweight too, and we're both diabetic.
I was feeling upset and discouraged this morning because the weightloss hasn't been going well, and talked to DH about it. I said I'd like to go back to eating very low carb (I know it's a faddy diet but it's good for my blood sugar, and it's what worked last year). He agreed. I've been struggling a bit emotionally lately, which he knows; my GP mentioned increasing my antidepressant dose but was reluctant because of the risk of weight gain as a side effect. I'm still perfectly functional but emotionally raw, if that makes sense.
DH made me lunch while I was showering after the gym: a packet of pancetta, fried and put in a brioche bun. I asked him what about the conversation we'd had this morning about carbs? I've been asking him for help with this for years and I swear, it feels like he's actively sabotaging me. He brings piles of chocolate and sugary crap into the house, if he cooks he adds masses of fat to everything and today he got angry, started banging things around, and said I was being ungrateful by not eating the pancetta sandwich.
I have this fantasy of him being interested, maybe asking whether I stuck to my calorie goal for today, maybe smiling and saying 'well done' if I did. But it seems that mostly what I get is complete lack of interest, with the occasional bout of actively making it harder for me. What's a realistic expectation of a spouse in a medically important weight-loss situation?