Me and DH have been together about 10 years and married for 6. We have 2 young DDs (4 and 2). Our eldest DD has autism, and our youngest is going through the terrible 2's stage, so they are both quite demanding right now. Since the kids have come along we don't get a lot of time as a couple, and very rarely go out or anything as a couple. We both normally work full-time but DH currently off work sick due to a back injury. This also means there's a lot at home he can't do, meaning I'm trying to work full time and do pretty much everything at home, and with the kids. He's in a lot of pain and quite short-tempered (he acknowledges this), and frustrated about not being able to do much. I'm tired and irritable and frustrated with never getting a break or time to myself, so I'm being quite short-tempered too. We don't have much in the way of family support, although my Mum helps out a bit. Paid babysitters etc are a bit out of the question at the moment whilst we are both repaying some (unavoidable) debt. We just seem to be getting on each others nerves constantly at the moment, and keep snapping at each other and the kids. I don't like things being like this but I don't know how to break the pattern. We've spoken about things and can both understand why the other is frustrated and irritable, but it doesn't seem to have stopped up being irritable with each other. Suggestions?