Dating someone with depression

[MonicaBee]

I’ve been dating a man for the past three months and he has recently opened up to me about his struggles with depression and stress. Both of which I had already worked out for myself due to his very up and down state of mind.

He has accepted some medical help recently and has been doing well.

Every so often he suffers with a bad spell, and pulls away from me for a few days, asks for space and cuts contact.

I was wondering if anyone else is in a similar position. I understand that I need to give him his space when he feels this way and that it’s part of the deal with dating him, but how do you get through these days yourself without any self doubt or upset?

I had one like this. he would go home when he wanted his own space. we'd see each other twice a week and I didn't feel the need to contact him every day. I didn't get upset at all as it wasn't my problem and I knew he'd call when he wanted to meet.

It's horrible being depressed but in the nicest possible way I think you could be setting yourself up to be always dancing to his tune. If your relationship starts off with him being able to dictate then it may never become more even. It might be a good idea to dial it right back to just dinner and drinks once a week until he is properly in control of his depression and things feel more equal. You're only 3 months in and you should be having fun not worrying about him all the time.

He needs to take responsibility, sort out his meds and therapy, then try dating. Dating causes stress even when its going well and its not a cure for depression.