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[Pip989]

Hey everyone, I'm not
Sure I'm doing this right but here goes, I'm
A mother of 2 and finally got in to a relationship seven months ago at first everything was fine and we got on really really well from day one become best friends and are still together obviously unfortunately we haven't had sex since December which is pretty much the whole entire time of our relationship my partner claims that he is very depressed after losing his Nan several months before we met he has been to the doctors finally after a lot of persuasion only had one counselling session unfortunately after this he didn't rebook one and went back to the doctors for anti depressants but because he's on tramadol they didn't want to give many more medication and told him to go about cancelling it took him over a week to book the session and now have to wait another 3 to even talk to somebody and find it very difficult as there is absolutely no affection I have and I have to ask for a kiss and sometimes his reply will be no or will be isn't my company enough I don't think it is we are
Ment to be a couple he's mentioned about us being friends and then decide against it as he doesn't believe that I will be in his life if he ends it, I want to be with him as I really do love him and as I said before he's my best friend but nowadays I don't even get a text when he's not here I see him less and less I don't believe that he is with anybody else and I do generally believe it is down to depression and stress if there's anybody that has been in that situation and does anyone have any advice on how I can cope with this a better way as I am now on antidepressants myself because of stress and strain about relationship I don't want to give up on him as I want to show him that being depressed isn't an issue and i can still love him even with the mental health issues! I'm not really sure what I wish to gain from this but I guess all I can do is askMaybe that somebody else has been through this and come out better on the other side part of me does want to give up as I'm not feeling like I'm in a relationship I'm not getting the love and attention that I believe I deserve and I really really desire I guess it's just a Catch-22 and I'm really really unsure what to do he says he loves me but obviously there is no actions to follow this I guess I just need him to show me that he does through actions and I just must be in touch thank you for reading

It’s not a relationship. He’s not that into you, sorry.

Literally can’t read that without punctuation

Not sure what to say, OP.
You have two children.
And in 7 months you got yourself to a depressed state over a man who isn’t really a relationship material.
So your priorities, at least from my point of view, aren’t where they should be.
He isn’t even a good bf to you and unclear if he could ever be with his massive issues. How can you possibly hang on to him and think that you can bring him into your kids lives?
There are other men out there that you can have a relationship with. Really.

I am now on antidepressants myself because of stress and strain about relationship Is this not enough for you to come to your senses? You've only know this guy 7 months and he has messed with your mental health so much that you are on tablets for depression.

You feel unloved and I'm guessing, undesirable. You have to ask for some affection from someone you should still be in the honeymoon stages of a relationship with...and sometimes he says no?!?!?!
Jeez oh m'dear, it's time to come to your senses and bin him. It isn't going to get better and I'm concerned that you might have some sort of co-dependency issues because otherwise I cant see why you haven't left him already.

This isnt a relationship in the sense you are after. Let him go and find someone else. Dont waste your time on something thats not there.

My advice is run for the hills.

You shouldn't have to medicate yourself with mind altering drugs to make a relationship tolerable.

WTF are you even entertaining this. The problems are in here of people who start well and descend into problems. You are starting off with them.

It isn't a relationship. Do not go any further. If he can't get it up now, he won't ever so move on

It sounds like he want to have his cake and eat it too. Alarm bells should be ringing that he's mentioned you should just be friends and then changed his mind. It's as though he doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either. You're just clinging onto something that really isn't there as it doesn't sound like much of a relationship. You should absolutely consider leaving him for the sake of your DC and your own mental health. A person should enrich our lives not make it worse especially this early on!

Did you not learn punctuation at school. Not.one.single.full.stop.period

As for your problem.....dump him. Concentrate on yourself, your health & wellbeing......and that of your DC's.

Then go to night school.

Time to leave him OP and I read your post fine. You have kids and they don't deserve their mother being so miserable 7 months into a new relationship.

Just cut your losses.

hadthesnip2 Do grow up dear and get out of the playground. There are more important things in life than a few full stops. It's legible enough to people who are more interested in the content than what it looks like.