Top tips to be happy single

[saturnsteel]

Please can I ask for your top tips to be happy single? I'm bored and lonely, so last night I wrote a list of things I would like to do in my life and thought I'd start working my way through it to give me some focus. However, when I've looked at it this morning I just think doing some of these things on my own would just be sad and miserable e.g. i would like to go up in a hot air balloon - but the thought of just going and doing that on my own doesn't really fill me with joy. It feels like it would be enjoyable to share the experience. I know lots of people do things on their own and enjoy doing things on their own - I just don't know how to get to that point. Or should I just do these things? Will I get to that point by doing more stuff on my own. Would love any tips if you were fed up with life and how you turned it around. Thank you

One good thing about doing things on your own is you get to do them.
Say you wanted a holiday, you'd have to factor in two leaves from work, that you wanted to go to Greece and he the Canaries or wherever.

If you want to go to an art gallery exhibition or some gardens or the museum or the theatre to see a certain play, you can just go, not faff around waiting for when the other people feels like it, by which time you end up not going or the play/exhibition is no longer on. If you go alone, you don't get dragged for a burger or cake and coffee or whatever that you don't want.

And yes to taking the pleasure in small things.

OP I would love to go in a hot air balloon with you!! :) your friends might be more keen to do these things than you think!

Definitely join an exercised based group even if it’s just walking or jogging as the endorphins you get from it will make you feel better regardless of your single status!

Good luck

And you’d be surprised how quickly you make friends or people adopt you.

Ive been taken out to dinner by a family i met whilst seeing a show alone on broadway. Am still in contact with someone i met at the Cairo museum on an organised tour 17 years ago!
Still meet a guy when in washington DC that i met in a running group when working for an inauguration. Totally platonic. Amazing memories of running past the White House before anyone was around chatting to other runners.
I used to work away a lot and had no choice but to do things alone or not do them at all! There are only so many nights alone in a hotel room i can take!

You can do this.

I'll have been single for 2 years in September and I can honestly say I love being single, I've had so much time to do things I've wanted to do without having to ask anyone......

I have a 6yr old and when he is with his dad, I make the most of my time by getting out to see friends, visiting new places, going on dates, reading in bed with a sleeve of Oreos etc, currently learning a new language for 15mins each night on an app called DuoLingo (free). I've got more involved in social events at work.... Basically filling my life with new experiences.

I've made plans to get away for a week during October half term when my son is with his dad.

The other week I went to a museum on my own, went to lunch on my own and I absolutely loved it!

I've made a list of all the things I want to do before the year is up and I've crossed off half.

I'd say in the last 6-12 months my confidence has skyrocketed and my focus is less on dating and meeting someone and just getting the most out of life.

It's ok to feel a bit flat about it all to start with, I really struggled a lot to start with but I wouldn't trade my single life now for anything, whoever I meet is really going to have to be something 😂

Thank you so much for all the responses and advice, I'm overwhelmed. You've given me the confidence to just go ahead and get on with my list and loads of great suggestions to add to it and I have this thread now to refer back to as well