Any advice - exh has just changed holiday arrangements with one week to go...

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I divorced my difficult exh three years ago. This is third summer hol. Two DC aged 12 & 9.
With mediation originally 2 weeks in Summer was agreed.
In Jan I asked about the two weeks in Aug, setting plan for year. He agreed dates by text. I have his agreement. Now he is saying that he only wants them for one week in the six week holidays, which starts next week.
Grrrr.
I (foolishly) have booked 10 days hol which is now in jeopardy.
There is no dealing with him. He is a crap parent and phenomenally tight with money with the DC. He is still stuck in I MUST PAY for divorcing abusive him.
Any advice?

Surely if he had dropped them off with documented proof that he knew you were away, any comeback would be on him not you so he wouldn't do it? I know you said he did it before but he was safe in the knowledge you weren't far away.

@MyCatHatesEverybody - but who the hell would put their children in that situation? It matters not who is at fault.

Not me, I'm afraid.
I won't take the risk for them.

His loss. I hope you have an amazing family holiday xox

Id say thank you to him, because you had wanted to take them with you anyway but the only available dates had clashed with his week, but now they can join you - hooray!!

even if this is not true it should annoy him that he has actually helped you

Thank you everyone. I've just read @Rainbow03 s thread and it's reminded me that I'm not dealing with reasonable, and I've not to get drawn back in.
I didn't give him grey rock on the phone last week, I told him what I thought of his shit parenting... mistake, I realise.
Am back on form this evening with my standard text reply - 'ok'.
Thank you.
I'm divorced FROM him, not TO him, as he'd like.

@TheInvisibleMrsCrane well frankly if I thought the other parent was capable of leaving our DC on the street when they knew I was out of the country then quite frankly I'd be stopping access.

It's situations like this that make you want to take PDFs of all the messages, save them in a file & read them out at his funeral.

"And then there was the time he said he didn't want to see his children over the summer holidays & if he did see them, then he'd randomly leave them alone at the end of our street when he knew I wasn't home. I'm telling you all this so you don't waste your time grieving & mourning this shit of a man..."

wow, excellent parenting from your x.

iwould do what another poster says if he contacts you again thanking him for letting you taking the kids away as it works better for you.

hes a knob