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Ended it

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solitarybeing · 15/07/2019 22:36

So I met a guy a few years back online and we briefly dated. He got back in contact and we flirted for a few months. He wants a friends with benefits set up. The first time around he wasn't clear on that and i got hurt. This time around I was clear. So this time I've ended it after another brief fling. I've suffered from low self esteem and am really proud I've had the courage to not go along with it. I just wanted to share. I feel I've respected myself and taken the lead rather than settle for breadcrumbs

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Rachelover40 · 15/07/2019 23:24

Well done you!
Flowers Wine

BookCzar · 15/07/2019 23:30

Good for you! FlowersCakeWineSmile

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solitarybeing · 16/07/2019 21:18

@Rachelover40 and @BookCzar thanks!
I know it's not a very exciting thread, I guess I just wanted to share and offload. I out up with too much and dont protect myself enough from getting hurt. This time I have and am feeling good about it

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bigchris · 16/07/2019 21:20

That's brilliant , remember how good it feels !

letsdolunch321 · 16/07/2019 21:30

Good on you. 💐🥂

Robin2323 · 16/07/2019 21:39

Really well done.
Feels good doesn't it?
Remember this feeling.
It's called self respect.
Took me a while.

crappyday2018 · 16/07/2019 21:47

Brilliant OP and you have every right to be proud. We should have more of these sorts of posts.

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solitarybeing · 16/07/2019 21:51

It does feel good. It's happened so many times where I've been lead on, or wanted as a friends with benefits and ive hung on to breadcrumbs, bits, anything. I'm not sure why now, age 43 divorce behind me years ago that I'm finally seeing the light. Why have I put up with it? Confused
I'm holding onto the feeling and self respect and can now say for myself, that I deserve better. Believe me, it's taken a long time

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