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Just wanted to share something.

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Flyg · 15/07/2019 22:27

I’m finally leaving something awful after 3 years of dealing with a selfish, critical, tight, moody and bossy man.

Breaking away was hard, i was made to ‘make the break’ about 5 times because he constantly acted like it was just me throwing toys out of the pram, when really it was that I was desperately unhappy, knew it had to end and was trying to start the hellish process of leaving.

We have 2DC ages 1 & 3. I’ve asked him to buy me out the home (I’ve been mentally tormented in these 4 walls, on and off from the minute we moved in). He has agreed. We do 50/50 childcare, but when he works he works away so it’ll be all me and he will pay some £ (exactly what is tbc).

I’m splitting my time between the shared house with the kids and my parents - who THANK GOD - have room for me and have seen what he’s been like so fully support the split.

I just wanted to tell anyone reading this who is scared to take that first step that even though it’s very hard, you will feel so much better on the other side.

I used to read posts on here all the time and feel like I could never leave because of his reaction. I was scared of him, not that he’d hit me, but of how verbally horrible he would be, and I was proven right he has been horrible to me, but it’s still worth it.

Be strong x

OP posts:
BalloonDinosaur · 15/07/2019 22:31

You are brilliant, well done Thanks

crappyday2018 · 15/07/2019 22:31

Well done OP, I'm so pleased you have made the first step to a happier life! Enjoy it x

Marlena1 · 15/07/2019 22:34

Well done OP, wishing you luck xx

Flyg · 15/07/2019 22:49

Thank you. He still gets to me, quite frequently, but the time away from him is bliss.
And getting into bed on my own, instead of next to someone who has most likely ruined my day, or ruined something recently for me......well that bit, at the end of the day on my own in bed. If you know, you know, that bit is FABULOUS.

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katseyes7 · 15/07/2019 23:04

Well done. lt takes courage to do it, but l couldn't agree more about being able to go to bed on your own, l still love that after being divorced nearly 20 years. That, and the peace of mind that goes with it, is priceless. x

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