How do you let a relationship go

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When you love them with all your heart but they don’t deserve an ounce of it?

You get angry and tell them to fuck the fuck off.

What @FuriousVexation said. If you know you deserve better, aim higher.

But how do you switch it off? it’s so easy to say it all but doing it is just so hard. Especially when there’s kids involved.

I have ended it. I know it is the best thing for me and the kids, but now I am a wreck. Crying constantly etc. Missing him so much even though it was terrible!?

I feel you @whatevertrever and it’s even harder when you don’t get any sympathy because everyone else just thinks “finally”

I think I'd ask myself why I love someone with all my heart , who everyone else thinks is a toss pot - because he is a toss pot

Because to love someone who treats me badly and who isn't good to me, indicates lack of self love/respect

And yes I've done it and yes i now know why

Get angry. Think about how amazing you are and what a fucking moron he is for treating you badly. Seriously dwell on what a catch you are and how he was lucky to have you. You don't need that loser. He was dead weight. Fuck him.

I wish I could switch it off. It makes no sense to feel this way about a horrible partner. I think doing fun new stuff and getting out there meeting new people is the only thing I can think of. Also, I need to find a way to go no contact despite kids because I am a wreck for a few days after contact but then I feel better, until the next contact.

Yes even the kids think 'finally'. So what the hell is wrong with me?!

You eat chocolate and drink wine. You have a moan and a cry. You feel pretty crappy for a while. But you keep thinking to yourself if I stayed how unhappy would I be in 3 months/ 6 months / a year, how shitty would I feel then. How low would my self esteem be then.
You think about how you were fine before you met him and you will certainly be fine now he's gone because he's a dick.