have posted about this before. One week in from when I asked my DH to leave. had a bloody awful week......caught off guard really given it was my decision. A lot of crying and extremely low points. Missed work most of the week. I have spent time thinking back to the good times in our r'ship. We rubbed along pretty well day to day and overall was a good person who supported me but it was when we were out and he had been drinking that he became an aggressive, at times nasty, verbally abusive arse. Have had a fair number of these episodes over the 9 years one of which was witnessed by a close friend who was very shocked. Got to the point where I became anxious and wary around him and on occasions a bit scared. These would happen on average one a month to every 6 weeks. Some episodes were much worse than others. So I find my self thinking could I have just coped with these for the sake of staying in the marriage as it was mostly ok. Have I been too hasty? I guess I had just reached a tipping point and said enough was enough after anther episode.
My question is in the days and weeks etc after how did you know you had made the right decision to end your marriage?