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Need a sanity check please

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OMGMyLifeIsCrazy · 15/07/2019 00:54

I have posted several times before about my problems with my now ex husband. Long story short: together for 17 years, 4 kids, loving wife who is the sole breadwinner, delusional jealousy on his side for 2 unrelenting years, separated early this month.

Help! I can't stop thinking about him and we are regularly texting with an occasional call in between. I cry every day even though he is no closer to realising he had it wrong all along. I can't just stop seeing/hearing from him because we are co-parenting 4 (me) to 3 (him). I feel like I'm going out of my mind.

I know I did the right thing in moving out but I also know he is unwell and can't help but feel this horrible journey is not finished yet. Am I being a complete idiot for maintaining friendly contact? How can I get over the accusations and the loss of my true love? I know it's only been a short time and I breathe a sigh of relief when I walk around my new house knowing I'm not being studied but I don't know whether my angst is coming from my love for him and our family or because I can't get closure.

OP posts:
OMGMyLifeIsCrazy · 15/07/2019 06:00

I just read that back to myself and realise it sounds like we have 7 kids. Lol. The 4 (me), 3 (him) was nights, not kids.

OP posts:
Blondebakingmumma · 15/07/2019 06:36

You need time to grieve for the relationship. Set up a new email account and give him the address. Ask him to contact you via this account for anything to do with the kids (unless urgent ie illness).
Only check the account every few days when you feel up to it. Ask him to stop calling and texting 🌸

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