What’s wrong with me

[AddisonForbesMontgomery]

I’m 32, single, no interest in any guy in my life or those on dating sites, and no one interested in me,

I want kids and to share my home with someone, but I have no one to do this with

It’s been five years of this, I had a relationship prior to this which lasted a year and before that, was long term single,

Why can’t I find the one for me? Why is no one interested in me? Please don’t tell me I’m still young and there’s plenty of time, if there had been any interest in the last five years then I’d believe you, but there hasn’t been any.

What am I doing wrong? I’m on dating sites, I have an active social life, I work on me, I’m very friendly, but still no interest.

I feel like there must be something wrong with me.

Are you interested in men? Can't you make the first move?

I don’t mind making the first move, I’ve tried it a few times on dating sites but it comes to nothing, they don’t respond, right now there’s no one I’m interested in though

I have no answers but I am exactly the same but a year younger so just posting in solidarity! Never had a real long term relationship. I have a good career, active social life and close family etc but just never meet anyone! I dont think I'm completely unattractive but just dont seem to find anyone I have an interest in that likes me too. Online just doesnt seem to work for me it tapers off after a few sentences!

What do your friends and family think?

I think if there's no one you're interested in then that's ok. I went through years where I didn't date as I didn't find anyone I was interested in either. I didn't date for 6 years (I am older and have dc though).

Could you join some Meetup groups doing activities you enjoy? You might meet some like minded men that way?

@Msgiggles30 it’s so hard isn’t it?

My brother in law has mentioned a couple of times that he thinks it’s too late for me, no one else seems to speak up when he says that, so maybe they think the same?

I have joined some groups, I’m really trying to put myself out there but it just doesn’t happen for me. I don’t know why.

Addison you have to think... it only takes one. I married later in life after feeling exactly like you. I was a perennial single and then out the blue along came my DH when I was least expecting it

Your BIL is being ridiculous. I read post after post about MNers who've met someone after a divorce and how happy they are now etc. so there's no reason why you won't.

Keep active, join groups, be open to people (which it sounds like you are) and... good luck

I really hope it works out for me, but I don’t see it happening right now, I don’t understand why and it’s really hard to try and comprehend

Yes it is hard when lots of friends just met thier husbands at like 20 pretty easily. It does get harder as you get older although I'll admit I havent been trying the last few years as have got too complacent in my own life but when I do try to it leads to nothing and then I cant be bothered again!

The ones that met their husbands at 20 will probably be divorced early 30’s (not all of course). Whereas although it hasn’t happened yet, when it does the odds will be much better. You still have so much time.