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Divorce - where do I start?

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Allverynice · 13/07/2019 17:35

I’m in an unhappy marriage and not sure I can go on for much longer. Been married for 3 years, I wasn’t sure about him even before we got married but I was anxious about cancelling the wedding. I also thought things will change. They didn’t.

We now have an 18 month old dd. We live in a house that we bought during the marriage, but it’s in his name. All the money for purchasing the house comes from his savings and also properties he sold during the marriage, no mortgage involved. He’s also still got lots of savings left (about 200k). I have some savings myself and a property that’s got a mortgage on it, under my name.

I left my job 2 years ago and I’ve been a SAHM ever since.

I’ve registered my dd to a reputable nursery and school down the road from our house.

My question is, what are the chances I can keep the family home after separation? Can I buy him out of the family home? Sorry I’m totally ignorant in this matter and I’m planning to have an appointment with a solicitor, but I never find the time.

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Treacletoots · 13/07/2019 18:09

Why is everything in his name?

OhamIreally · 14/07/2019 18:07

3 years is a short marriage so it's unlikely you would be awarded half his assets. Whether you can keep the marital home depends on what it's worth and how much you have in savings as you are unlikely to get a mortgage if you don't have an income.

Thingsdogetbetter · 14/07/2019 18:16

As you have another property in your name, I really don't se how you could swing it that you and dc 'need' to stay in the family home after a 'short' marraige. Get actual legal advice urgently. This is not something you don't have time for!

Rtmhwales · 14/07/2019 18:18

3 years is a short marriage, but I was told by solicitors that if the marriage produced children that was more important than the length of the marriage.

I was married to mine for less than a year but it produced a child. His solicitor advised him to settle with me for not quite 50/50 (about one-third probably) but considering I'd brought no assets into the marriage it was a decent amount.

The children's needs come first.
But a bunch of internet strangers can't help you, you'd best be down to a solicitor as soon as you can.

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