My husband... yes you read the title that’s why youve clicked. After living a terrible lifestyle for all his life, he had a surprise heart attack in the middle of the night and had to be airlifted (we were on an island) out to a hospital with a Cath Lab to insert a stent into his heart.
Smoking 40 cigarettes a day, burgers, fries, crisps, you get the idea. He immediately went off the smokes after his HA (our little euphemism) which for me which was a tiny light after a hugely traumatic event. I had been after him to stop for years.
So cut to 10 months later, he confessed he has started having the odd cigarette for the past 2 weeks. Without warning the trauma comes back to me and I am now sobbing in the parking lot outside our local on a Friday evening while the kids are playing inside. He says he will stop if it upsets me so much, that’s it’s an odd cigarette every few weeks, no big deal. I know he won’t be able to keep this up at all, he will skip right back into his bad, life threatening habit.
I have now caught him a couple more times, and my reactions have arced from disgusted to sorrowful to bawling.
I caught him again this evening after the task of assembling our kids trampoline, not a Friday night after a few beers.
So my question is: what should I do? What would you do?