Would you claim benefits if your partner won't give you access to money?

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As the title says, would you claim as a single person in the same house, or even a different address (a relatives)?

If you you had limitations on when you could work due to having pre-school children to look after full-time then would you do it to pay for the basics and emergencies?

If it made you depressed and on edge, then could it be justified in these conditions?

This happens a lot and is not to be recommended. You are in an abusive relationship. Do everything possible to extricate yourself as soon as possible. Seek help.

No, I would not. I would leave him and then claim benefits the legal way.

And FWIW that's exactly what I did do. Although my marriage was not abusive but unhappy.

Hi, we're moving this thread to our Relationships topic at the OP's request.

I wouldn’t advise staying even if you can get benefits as a separated person as you could be at risk if you stop doing things for him eg he gets angry.

If you can safely separate in the same house - no sleeping together, no cooking for him, doing his laundry etc, separate finances, then you can claim as a single parent legally.

But financial abuse is domestic abuse and you need to get out of the relationship properly. You have options. Speak to Women's Aid.

You can only claim as a single person if you are indeed single. If the financial abuse is affecting you mentally then you need to leave.

Commuting benefit fraud is a short term solution with long term implications.

You will be supported by the benefits system but you will first need to do your bit by separating from your abuser.

What’s stopping you leaving this relationship OP?

No because it would be fraud and unlawful.

I’d leave and find full time work using childcare.

PPs are right, if he is restricting your access to money you are in an abusive relationship. Please do call women’s aid, there is help for you to get out of this situation.

You need to call Womens Aid; they can and will help you here leave this abusive relationship.

I claim cont based ESA and PIP, we also get a little tax credits as a family (based on family income so all above board). We have separate accounts so I get the ESA, PIP and CTC, also the child benefit...and transfer a bit to him towards bills. It's not due to the problems you mentioned though, if I wasn't claiming these I would probably work part time. But yes it is possible to claim benefits yourself while in a family. Different to pretending you are single for example which would be fraud.

Where does the child benefit go?

even a different address (a relatives)?

If you do split up then yes you could claim UC at a different address as a single person. If you stay together then if you are on a low income as a family you could have claimed tax credits and had the CTC paid to you...but it is UC now and this is a problem as only paid to one person. You could get it paid to you I guess. But might be hard if he is abusive.

You dont need to save up for a deposit. Your local housing department can support you with a discretionary housing payment for deposit and first month's rent. Housing benefit can take over after that. Agree that you should contact Women's Aid

england.shelter.org.uk/housing_advice/benefits/discretionary_housing_payments_dhp

No I wouldn't commit fraud. Why would exposing yourself to the possibility of a criminal record be a last resort rather than leaving the person who's financially abusing you?

If my partner refused to give me money I would get rid of him before I'd,

1. Risk getting put in prison for fraud
2. Illegally sponge off other law abiding,tax paying citizens

I wouldn't commit fraud, no.

I would do research in my local area of organisations that could help me and my children leave him. You are a partnership, it should be both your money.