I’m an only child who always wanted (or thought I did) three or more kids. DH is one of two who wanted one or two. Took me three years a miscarriage and clomid to get my Dd who is 20 months. I’m in my mid thirties. I’ve been on and off broody since xmas and we’ve (with discussion and full awareness) not used contraception but with no luck. We just revisted the private clinic and they are happy to treat me and we can afford it. But I still feel a bit torn. I thought i’d want a bigger gap but that just seems foolishly risky. I worry my DD will get less love and attention. But then at other times I just desperately want another baby and her not to be an only like me. Only is fine but I personally wanted siblings. Basically how do you know if it’s right to have more? And when it’s the right time or do I still need to learn to go with the flow more? You’d think three years of struggling to conceive would have taught me not to over think.