Signs of cheating.

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I have a really strong gut feeling about this but not much else to go on.

No access to phone. Like fortknox tbh always has been though. Or social media. No idea of passwords etc

How and why did you suspect/know?

Things haven't been solid for a while but I keep getting this feeling that somethings not right.

Would it be a faux pas to ask for his phone outright?

@Mylifestartstoday same here, he idolised the kids and I, together 20 years since late teens.. absolutely destroyed me, but I’m stronger for it and I’m proud I’ve come through it relatively sane lol. Like you I have a very different outlook on life and relationships now. X

Do you live together OP?

@mumof2greatgirls
I am sorry you are at a bad place. I saw your other thread.
You shouldn’t blame your suspicious mind - if not this, something else would have lead you two to the same place.
A marriage rarely can survive one person losing a libido, and another not. It was only a matter of time.
It’s not fair to expect another person to give up on sex because you did.

That said - you really need to think about protecting yourself and your children. You need a solicitor and you need to stop thinking that he is your friend. He no longer is.
Just the fact that he is OK with living in family house on his own while his kids are at a smaller place - speak volumes.

hi. thanks for all the responses but HE is my friend. He has been for so long. He was everything to me. My children are protected. He loves them more than life itself. Its just our relationship thats suffered. He didnt want the children to leave. Its their home as much as his.
It was my choice, all the fighting, screaming. They didnt deserve it. And now they are torn. They love us both, equally, but have no understanding of whats going on. In truth, they are happier we are not fighting anymore. But they cant reconcile why we are apart. They see me crying every day and ask when we are 'GOING HOME'.
What do I do?

I'm Sorry. I feel Ive hijacked this post. Didnt mean too. Just responding to earlier posts. Please just be aware that GUT insticts are not always right. I have learned this to my detriment!

I agree with the poster that said ask to borrow his phone to make a call or do something like that. Eg: 'Oh shoot I totally forgot I booked an asda delivery for 1 o clock and we wont be back by then. I'll have to re-schedule it. Give me your phone, mines is out of battery'. If he says no then 100% cheating.

If he says yes, you can pretend to be going on the website to change it/look for their number and have a quick check of his texts/if there's one number he keeps calling that you don't recognise.

I wouldn't take my phone into the bathroom. Why does he? Surely he needs both hands to have a pee... brush teeth... brush hair... short of reading the news while having a poo (still yuck), there is no reason at all why he would need to take it in there apart from keeping it away from you.

Trust your gut instinct. But don't ask him directly, especially if he has form for lying.

Yes, pretext of 'my mobile's died, can I quickly check me email/whatever on yours' is a good idea. His reaction should tell you all you need to know.

@StillAgony
I'm not sure taking your phone to the bathroom is the norm?

It is to me, taking a shit is bloody boring.

OP it's the change of behaviour that counts.