Someone might fancy me and I don't want to put them off!

[morningafternoonevening]

I got out of a long term relationship earlier this year and finally feeling ready to start dating again.

I'm a lesbian and so is B in this story - just so there is no confusion!

I had a friend A round tonight and she was talking about her friend B, who I have met a couple of times over the past few years and always taken a liking too but never acted on it.

I mentioned to friend A today that I think B is attractive. Friend A tells me very excited that B has recently asked if she has any lesbian friends to set her up with. Friend A says 'as you know, I only have the one friend who I know who like women: morningafternoonevening, who you know! She's single and could be great for you because blah blah blah, although did just come out a relationship this year so I'm not sure if she's open to dating'. Friend B mentions that she already knew I was single, says I'm attractive and asks her more about whether I'm open to dating because I've obviously just come out of a long term relationship this year. (But this could just be in a friendly way or in a interested in me way, and I don't know if friend is exaggerating the 'attractive' bit out of pure excitement that both her friends could potentially like each other.)

As a side note, the only reason B knows I'm single is because the other day when I was with another friend, I saw B was nearby. So I spoke to that friend about me being single in the hope that B might overhear, as I realise that even thought it has been months, she probably didn't know. So she did successfully overhear and absorb that information!

Friend A, B and another of their friends are going to the pub tomorrow. Friend A has now excitedly invited me to come along in the hope that B and I could get to know each other and essentially set us up!

But I'm now so nervous because I haven't tried to impress someone new in years!
It seems like there is a faint hint that this person I really like could like me- I don't want to mess this up!

What do we talk about?!

Any advice from the lovely Mumsnet vipers? Would appreciate some tips!

Well, it sounds like she likes you enough to be interested in getting to know you better and find out whether there's more there than just finding each other physically attractive.

I'd go with them, be yourself and just see what happens. Until you know whether or not you're compatible, theres no way of knowing whether it could go any further or not really.

How long was your long term relationship that ended? Are you really sure you're 'healed' from that and ready for another relationship? If so, there's nothing to lose by just going and seeing.

How exciting!

What do we talk about?!

Really?

How about asking her about her to start off with ? That way, you can find out if you like her. Also, if you like her, i imagine that your interest would gradually show. As you chat, perhaps you will feel more comfortable to open up and tell her a bit about yourself. Personally, I wouldn't get too heavy to begin with. I'd take it easy and calmly and I'd look after myself well partly because I'd just come out of a long relationship. That said, if you're ready to meet someone new, then that's lovely. Good luck !! Hope you have fun.

Do you usually have probs finding things to talk about? It should come naturally. As for asking whether you are “healed”, in my book the best way to get over someone is to get under someone!

Best wishes with your new friendship.

Rather then going into it trying to impress her, or to 'not mess up', go into it with curiosity about whether or not she is a good fit for you. Someone has summed it up before as regarding yourself as the prize, rather than competing to be picked.

As for things to talk about well there will be 4 of you there, so I would imagine the conversation will flow naturally. It sounds like a nice low-key way to begin to get to know someone.

I hope you have a lovely evening

I hope you have a lovely evening, a

Just be yourself, if you like each other it will happen without too much effort. I met my partner at a party and was sort of set up by a mutual friend. We are now married and have babies!