Guy I'm seeing texts me too much ...clingy ?

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I've been seeing him 7 weeks and he is great but he texts a lot.
I love to chat but he texts and texts and when I try and end the convo he still reply's.
Some days I enjoy a lot of chat but other days it does my head in a little.
Every hour a text will pop up then he reply's within a few minutes.
Would this annoy anyone else ?
Do I tell him?

We both texted a lot in the early days and we still do now it's just the way we are. It might just be his way, perhaps have a talk to him about it!

Errm... Don't reply? He's probably sitting there thinking 'Jeez this woman won't stop texting me'. It's not obligatory to rely there and then. Leave it 24hrs

Not a fan of inane texting either so that would annoy me too.

Does sound a bit needy, and yeah I'd be having a word.

I think this is more common now actually. Most guys I've chatted with and including the guy I'm dating now text a lot.
Yes it could mean he's clingy but it could also mean he's just really keen on you, or thinks that is what you do!
If its doing your head in, just don't reply and if he questions it just tell him sometimes you're too busy to text a lot.

I really can't be bothered with constant texts either. In particular the same "Hey how are you today" mundane chit chat guys always fall back on. I'd much rather a 10 minute phone call before bed for a catch up. Perhaps suggest that to him?

It would annoy me.

What happens when you don’t reply. Does he ask why you are not texting, or accept you could be busy? Maybe, if you need space, text by saying i’m Busy doing xyz, and then ignore your phone for an hour. See how he responds.

No he doesn't do that he just waits till I reply.
Then he responds very fast again
Every morning before 9 I get a snapchat then that's it for the rest of the day ..more Snapchats then texts etc

I’d tell him.

Everyone is different. An ex may have liked the constant attention, so that may have become his normality.

It would drive me up the bloody wall!

I am like the guy you are dating! I like texting quite a bit (family, friends, boyfriend.....) People who know me accept this, but also realise I don’t expect them to reply immediately, or text as much as me, and we will joke about it. (I always say, I’m one of those people who is shy at first, but when I decide I like someone and open up with them and come out of my shell, they will wish they could stuff me back in it!) It’s nothing sinister, honestly - I will just have something funny happen, or read something or see something or even think something that I think would be relevant or interesting to one of the people I like/love, and so I want to share it with them. My boyfriend, especially, we will joke about it as he isn’t a massive texter during the day, and I realise he doesn’t always even read everything I send! Luckily, my mom and a few of my friends text a lot, so I am never bored! My brother is another who doesn’t text much, and is always moaning at me and my mom about how many messages there are on our family WhatsApp whenever he turns his phone on. We moan back at him about never having his phone on! But none of this is serious stuff, and no one is trying to infringe on anyone’s privacy - it’s all lighthearted.

Having said that I do try to be considerate and if he, or one of my friends, is clearly busy and not responding, then I do try not to bombard them with loads more texts..... But also I don’t operate a strict “no double texting” policy - after all, it’s up to an individual if and when they want to read their texts - it’s not like phoning someone 24/7 and demanding to speak with them then and there.......

I agree it is easier to make light of this in an established relationship - 7 weeks in is quite early days, and you don’t know necessarily if he is sensitive or easily offended - but could you maybe make a bit of a joke of it, which also communicates that it isn’t a sign of you being pissed off if you don’t reply for a while?

As long as you don’t feel he is texting to check up on you, I don’t think it is necessarily a red flag or even a sign of serious incompatibility - it could just be a small difference between you, of which there will no doubt be many (as is perfectly healthy).

However, if he reacts badly to the idea that you DON’T constantly want to be texting him back, then that would imply that he is controlling, rather than that he is just chatty with people he likes.....

my ex used to do this too and it drove me nuts- it was always snapchat photos, inane ones at that, or the ridiculous inane small talk with too many hearts and kisses, and then if he couldn't sleep he'd be texting at stupid oclock in the morning when I was in bed- too much, too clingy- now an EX!!

TBH, if you are finding it too much, listen to your instincts- maybe try talking to him about it, but if this is how he is, then he is unlikely to change too much!!