Anyone moved back in with toxic parents because of long term illness?

[LollyG2019]

Long term illness of adult child, parents elderly but still managing independently, and they have a big house. There are worse parents out there but they are still stressful.

It's something I might have to do, and it would help to hear other people's stories, or links to old threads about this. Is anyone finding a way to cope with it?

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I'm very sorry. I think this might very well be a 'make a decision in haste, repent at leisure' situation.
You describe them as toxic. Also they are ageing and will not cope at all well with the inevitable loss of independence.
This will be a very difficult decision to reverse.
Do you have any other options because this one has misery written in large letters all over it? I'm so sorry 💐💐

Thanks toBed
That's kind of why I think I need to hear about how things went for other people. I haven't lived with them since I was 18 so there are some things it's hard to imagine and which I might be glossing over in my imagination. Other people's parents won't be exactly the same, but I think I've lost the sense of what it might be like putting up with them day in day out. There is probably something diffferent about the dynamic when the adult child is ill or disabled, compared to a healthy middle aged adult staying there for a few weeks because of a divorce.

Look, everyone comments on MN through the biased lens of their own experience.
I would run from this situation like my hair was on fire. Mine would treat me like a 15 yo who was to blame for everything.

I'm a bit dizzy right now, and also I did a lot of therapy so I am not feeling a lot of what happened as much as when I was younger. I stopped being uniquely frightened of them. My attitude to them works if they are people you don't speak to very often, coz there are a lot of people in the world who have opinions about what you should do, and keep on about things when you've told them already dozens of times, and who have bad boundaries. Especially old people. They seem more normal now because of their age than they did when they were younger. They are really not a good option because of those things, but other people, who could be easier to live with, don't have enough space.