How to get over somebody

[charliiiii]

Does anyone please have any tips on how to get over somebody? I've recently been cheated on and need to get this man out of my head. My heart feels broken and I don't know what to do next?

It's so hard, and you will go through waves and cycles of emotions. - hate for him, question yourself and want him back, Blake yourself, hate him, miss him, miss him more, hate, evaluation etc etc.

But my advice of what worked for me:
Full list of all the bad things. How he made you feel
A drafted email telling him exactly what I thought of him.
Gym, kept busy.
Stayed away from things or places that reminded me of him.
Blocked him on everything and then deleted his number after a few weeks.
Deleted every message and photo
Told my friends and family and spoke to them regularly.
Planned trips away
Spa days
Even just walks along the beach.
Every time he entered my head said outloud "no no no. Not today" and forced myself to think of something else.

And personally for me, I seen a therapist for a few months every week (costs a bit) but has helped me evaluate everything clearly.

@lifegoes thank you so much, it is hurtful with having mutual friends seeing him with another girl but I need to think positive and as you've said think of the bad times, he is not the person who he pretended he was and I think I forget that when I am feeling sad

@charliiiii it's so natural to keep being brought back to the good times. You forget how bad he's made you feel. This is on him!! Don't ever forget you have done nothing wrong.

When I experienced a bad breakup I found this site really helpful. Hearing other stories and also suggestions of books and you tube clips. Sounds silly but just listening to podcasts helped. Mainly as I couldn't read a book without crying.

Oh I also found an easy long boxset to watch. Something light but that keeps you intrigued and mind doesn't drift (no romcoms or serial killer things 😉)

If you can read, this is a really good site. postmalesyndrome.com/how-to-stop-seeking-validation-live-life-on-your-terms/

Also a great one about staying on your white horse.

This guy on YouTube is amazing. So many different posts.

@lifegoes your absolutely right being on here has stopped every urge I have had to talk to him because there's so many people who value your opinion and thoughts just a click away, I think it's because he's been my first proper long term relationship it's all a little bit alien and new, but it's good to know that what I'm feeling is normal.

I've been watching YouTube story times of other people catching their partners cheating all these crazy stories and they have all lived to tell the tale and are all absolutely fine now 😹

I'm going to gave a watch of his videos now, thank you so much 😘

@charliiiii no problem and just remember to keep posting on here, even if it's just to vent.

You have done the right thing. And the next amazing chapter of your life is about to start - make it the best. Because you deserve it.