My LO is 2 months old, and I'm having anxiety having him around my parents in the evenings. Over the last 5 years, their alcohol dependency has become worse and more noticeable. They are retired, no kids in the house, and are sweet well-intentioned people. However, good intentions aren't good enough around a newborn.
For the most part, we don't see them in the evenings- problem solved. But sometimes we will have to (eg. family trip; family wedding coming up). They do live quite close to us as well. The amount they drink is only increasing over the years, and I don't want my child growing up around them when they're blind drunk.
Suggestions for how to have a conversation with them about this? Should my siblings & I have an intervention, as it's only getting worse? I'm not sure what approach will work, as they are heavy smokers and all of us have asked them to reduce or quit for their health and ours for many years. They say they will try and nothing ever changes. I know I can't control their behavior, only my own (but would nonetheless love it if something did change).
DH & I agreed not to be around them when they're drunk. If we have to (eg. family wedding), no contact with the baby. Other boundary suggestions?