Am doing my own head in with this so need an outsider’s perspective.
I work with someone who is single/widowed. Quite like him and have a couple of mutual interests maybe. Paths tend to cross at work every now and again.
A couple of months ago I started to feel a bit conscious that he was flirting on occasion but very subtly, smiles/eye contact when passing in corridors, going out of his way to pop into office to tell me something he could easily say by email, leaning in when talking to me etc. As I say, subtle. So I decided that I was probably imagining things.
Saw him at a recent staff do and he disappeared early and after a few drinks I sent him a message saying he should swing by the office when he is next around, signed off with a kiss. Woke up the next day cringing and cursing myself but he had replied to say he would definitely visit, and some new work coming up means he will ‘have even more excuses’ to pop into my office. Also signed off with a kiss.
My immediate reaction was that’s flirting but the other part of me thinks it’s strictly about work and he’s just being friendly. I can’t figure it out and I’m now at the point of overthinking it. How would you interpret it?