Threatened with violence on a day like this

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I lost my uncle yesterday to cancer. I didn’t get to have that last conversation and it’s really upset me. He was the father figure I never had.
My partner is obviously triggered from the passing of his dad and is being bad tempered. I’ve had enough of it and I told him this. I said quite strongly I’d had enough of the way he speaks to me. Out of nowhere he picked up a baking tray and went to hit me in the face with it. He didn’t even apologise. Infact he’s refusing too. I’ve now told him the relationship is over. Which he doesn’t believe. I had to go to my uncles funeral next week with all my family.

I’ve now told him the relationship is over. Which he doesn’t believe

Do you own or rent? Whose name is it in/on the lease?

Are you hurt? I'm so sorry you're going through this and I'm sorry for your loss.

The house is in his name owned by him. I have to get my own place

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Please collect your things and leave today. Don't stay for a second longer than you need to x

Get your own place. Move into an Airbnb until you can get something more permanent. Do not stand for this.

Move out. Stay with friends . Stay with family. A B&B. Women's refuge may advise. Do not go back except with someone else to get your stuff.

I dont think he is triggered. I think he is probably cross that you quite rightfully need some attention, care, love and support.

He may be thinking how dare you make it about you & not him.

My ex stepped over me once, when I was laying on the floor crying/mourning.

The baking tray was a reaction to how dare you say you want better.

I hope I have made sense.

You are worthy of total support & to always feel 100% safe.

So sorry for you loss OP.
And so sorry you are finding that your DP is abusive and violent.
Can you get away to someone for support?
Stay with someone else?
Just get away and do it fast before it escalates further.

Triggered my arse.

He just wants to put you back in your box cos you have the audacity to be focused on a man who isn't him. Even if said man is dead.

Triggered my fucking arse. I've been triggered countless times and never yet have I felt the urge to pick something up and hit another person with it.

OP is there anyone in your family who could put you up for a few weeks until you get on your feet? Are you working? Do you have DC (pray god not with him)

Fantastic that you made it clear that this is a relationship-ender. I hope you're currently packing.

Not triggered. Jealous that it's now about you and not him

GOOD FOR YOU.

Stay strong.

Sorry for your loss.

You need to leave - can you go to family?

I don't believe for a second he was triggered.

I have PTSD after the way my Mum died. When DP recently lost somebody close, my first thought was for him and what he needed.

I'm sorry your now ex is such a thundering fucking scumbag.

Are you safe now? I'm very sorry about your uncle