Sensitive subject: Abortion

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No bashing pls ladies
So I had a relationship with someone who turned out to be living two lives. I got pregnant by him before he left me and it all came out he was a liar and went back to his wife and kids. He told me to abort our baby, my question is - if I went down the route of abortion.. can he call the clinic and find out when my appointment is or if I have an appointment etc? I was under the impression that the clinic would not give out the information whether I did or did not have an appointment. Basically I need time to come to a decision for ME. Not him, so I don't want him to be able to find out whether or not I've booked etc. Please no nasty comments. I genuinely believed this guy was single and then got into a relationship with me, I'm heartbroken enough as it is xx

There is no way on earth they will be able to tell him anything

Does his wife know?

I am just thinking if there would be any way a female could call and pretend to be you. Saying you had forgotten the date of the appointment, etc.

I would certainly hope and imagine that they have very robust security and data procedures though.

Hope you’re okay and don’t feel pressured Into making any decisions until you are completely ready. It needs a lot of mulling over as it’s something you’ll live with forever. No judgement either way but do it for you and not someone else!

Thank you!

His wife to my knowledge doesn't know. I've just phoned BPAS and they said they will not give any info, I remember now setting up a password and I have an ID number that I have to give to avoid anyone else finding things out. I'm hoping that will be enough of a barrier.

I already have two very small children and I'm a now single mum, I know that the reality of all of this is all against me. But I'm emotionally connected I need to give myself a chance to think with a clear head without worrying 24/7 he's on to me reconsidering etc xxx

They could be fined or closed down if they revealed information ! It's your decision not his

I was about to say you normally get a pass code and word.

Take care of yourself